I was just reading a MyTake yesterday ironically posted by a female GAG user on why marriage is slowly becoming an all-time low these days (especially in the United States) because of men avoiding such commitments due to societal problems and changes between men and women and men gaining nothing out of marriage but getting financially fucked over in the ass and have his freedoms stripped. Not to mention, the divorce rates in the US is statistically higher than most of the world while the majority of those people who filed for those divorces (in the US) are women.
The only reason why it seems that more women want to get married even in today's era is because most of these women just want a man to depend on for them to feel protected and then screw his life over financially and make his life hell.
While I'm slowly becoming against marriage, the only ones who have a problem with people like us because of our viewpoints on marriage and tried to shove marriage down our throats are the extreme far right conseveratards who like to stick their nose into other people's businesses and micromanage their lives.
So I just want ask you both male and female GAG users if marriage is really worth it these days or if it's just another excuse to legally strip a man for his freedoms?
Most Helpful Girl
It's worth it if someone wants to get married. It depends on the individual though and what they're looking for. Not everyone wants to get married but they have no issues with commitment and long-term relationships. Actually getting married does carry legal benefits though. I'm pretty conservative myself but I don't care what other people do, it's none of my business. Since I do want to get married someday though, the only person whose opinion of marriage would matter to me would be my partners.
Personally, I do want to get married someday and I have no intentions of ever getting divorced once I do. Which is why I would never make the decision to get married in the heat of a moment. It's a big deal and something I would have to talk with my partner about extensively beforehand. Some people just rush into it which is why I think divorce is so common.
I think this is really about trust though. A man shouldn't marry a woman he can't trust not to take all of his money. This again goes back to not rushing into things. Waiting for a while and really getting to know the person you plan to marry is so important. If you can't fully trust that person then you shouldn't get married anyway.9
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Most Helpful Guy
Sometimes, you'll hear women say things like, "Why don't men want to get married?" or "Why aren't you married, yet?"
Take a step back for a moment and think about the way those questions are framed. Now, let's use the same exact framing for, something like anal rape.
"Why don't women want to get anally raped?" or "Why aren't you anally raped, yet?"
I mean, come on! Everyone is doing it! It's just the normal and natural thing to do.
The question is never "Why not." The question is always, "Why?"
Why should I get out of bed today? Because I have to work. Why? Because I need money? Why? Because I have bills to pay? Why? Because I have basic needs to satisfy. Why? Because I choose to remain alive, and doing so requires food, etc.
So, when people ask, "Why don't you have kids, yet?" The appropriate answer is, "Have you actually taken a look at the job market and real wage growth relative to the ever-so-increasing cost of living? Does it really seem to you like this world needs MORE PEOPLE? The question is not why I don't have kids yet. The question is, why should I have kids? What are the benefits to society as a whole compared to the costs and detriments to society as a whole, and how do the benefits exceed the costs and detriments, exactly?"
Similarly, "Can anyone make the case on why a man 'should' get married?"
What exactly will "the marriage contract" or "the legal status of being married" add to his life, that he cannot enjoy without marriage?
The ability to have children?
The ability to love another human being?
The ability to live together in the same house with the person he loves?
The ability to have sex?
The ability to raise a family together with another person?
The ability to have a big party with over 200 guests that's going to cost $50,000+ and his female partner can wear a white dress and they can both cut a fancy cake?
What exactly will marriage "add" to his life, that he (i. e., the man) actually wants?
Because, as you're scratching your head thinking about non-BS answers to that question, I have a long list of non-BS reasons why a man should actually avoid marriage.
But, those are just "counter-points." FIRST, there must actually be a "point" and case made "for" marriage, before any counter-points become relevant.
So, in the absence of any non-BS and non-fluffy reasons why a man should get married, there's really not much else to talk about.2