it seems like pretty girls get used and guys choose ugly girls to marry am I wrong? all my less attractive girlfriends have great guys and all my prettiest girlfriends get used by guys. how do I find a great guy that won't use me? what are we doing wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
typically, what makes a guy (or girl) 'great' is the degree to which they can view themselves objectively. The inability to do so typically means that the person is an asshole. However, this is not a default ability for most people - it must be learned. And the only way to learn it is through pain of failure. When someone fails enough they tend to have lower standards for others, and in extreme cases have trouble criticizing anyone for anything at all. So, when some 'ugly' girl starts pursuing a 'great' guy, he is going to be reluctant to tell her to leave him alone, no matter how much he wants to.0
Most Helpful Girl
"Great guys" marry "ugly girls" because there's more to marriage and building your life around someone besides how they look. Not everyone gives away their last name based on how much of a trophy a woman can appear to be. "Ugly girls" often have more to offer spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. This is because a majority of pretty girls rely on pretty instead of taking it to the next level. Instead of learning how to prep and properly cook a full course meal, they'd rather be learning how to perfect contour. -_- Instead of actually creating wonderful, charming memories in the moment, they're too busy trying to capture them in the perfect way so they can gain excessive, worthless likes on Instagram. A lot of pretty girls don't aspire to be nurturers, healers, and internal providers. They simply rely on their genetic gifts to maintain their desirability. For smart men, marriage doesn't work that way.0