so here's the thing, my fiance and I have dated for almost three years, and have only been engaged for a few months, our engagement is going to be 2-3 years long...
in our first year of going out we never fought and we were completely happy and in love and care free and all this lovely stuff, but now we fight, not like serious crap..
its actually most of the stupidest things.. like not seeing each other that much because of work and school.. or the other day he invited me over, but when I got there I waited outside for ten minutes and I had to pee so I left to pee and planned on coming back, but he got upset because I left... and there's more random stuff that causes us to fight that's just so silly, but we've never fought this much and it scares me.
Is it normal?
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Normal ? I would say it's normal, I wouldn't say it's what a healthy relationship is like, I have been with someone for two and a half years without having any but two disagreements and they were actually having to do with family, rather, our respective families. Often when we go out, people think we have just started dating, as we are always having a blast with one another.
I think, as both of the disagreements we did have were geared at "the relationship" and how it should be, I figure is that same mind frame, that there is such thing, that gets people in trouble. There's nothing to bind you both together, really, I think all this abstraction we create of a little private world. Think about it, it's the same as when you were a child and there was always that one kid in the playground that nobody could stand because they were always dictating how things should be all the time, in his own little world, no fun. That's how I see a lot of couples acting like, so, I think this is a sad state of affairs; it's what happens when you two create your own little world, eventually one wants to take it one way and the other another way, before you know it, you are living in different illusions.0