We talked about this over the weekend, I thought I had made it clear that it's not that I don't love her or I don't love her enough, it's just that I don't want to go through this right now, it's too much money and time for me at this moment. Maybe in the future, but I'm not sure I want to get married at all. Anyway, she thinks it's because of her, which is far from being true. I don't know how we can solve this.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think there is any way to change her mind.
Almost every woman wants to get married at some point. They want the whole wedding shebang - planning something that in her mind will be perfect and something she will never forget. Have you asked her why marriage is so important to her? I'm not saying someone else's opinions should change your opinions, but maybe if you saw her reasoning, if it was a deep enough and an understandable enough reason, you may change you mind... one day. If it's just "because that's what you do! thats how we have a family!" then, in my opinion, she has the whole idea completely wrong.
Personally, I don't need to be married to be happy. I've been married before, and it ended badly. I value what I have with the person I'm with more than what everyone else sees.
Most Helpful Guy
That's silly, love has nothing to do with being marrird, look at those arranged marriages besides marriage isn't for everyone, I know I won't do it again but will probably have a live in partner. Look at Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn , they have been together for years with doing that1