We go to the movies, gym, dinner together. And we play video games online PC/PS3/PS4/Wiiu? Xboxes. We also go to a retro game store nearby and look at all the old games from ps1/n64 era and reminince. I also go out with drinks with her. My wife slapped me when she saw me hug her goodbye in front of her, and now I have to sneak out to see her. Her husband also was angry at both of us, and forbade her to see me. She also had to sneak out to meet up with me. One time, we got home at 4 AM from a midnight dinner at Denny's. Both of them yelled at us. Is it cheating to hang out with my female best friend when I am married? All that is happening is some compliments (nice dress, etc), and hugs.
I also stood up for her when a guy tried to hit on her when we were out for drinks in a bar. I put an arm around her and walked her away from that guy..
And one of her single female friends also invited us both to play Xbox and wii and ps3 and gamecube at her house.
Is this wrong?
Most Helpful Girl
Whether you want to hear it or not, what you're doing is indeed wrong. And yes, it's what one would call emotional cheating. You're married now. Things. Change. When one enters the sanctity of marriage.
For a start, your wife's feelings should come before anyone else's, and she's clearly hurt by all the attention you're giving your female friend - and rightly so! I'd be upset too if my man preferred hanging out with his best friend all the time over me.
As for hugging your friend... in front of your wife? How rude and inconsiderate of you. She already clearly feels vulnerable enough around this other woman, and here you are, entering into physical intimacy in front of her? Not wonder she hit you, I hope she made it a good one too. Usually I'd say it's ok to hug other people. But in this situation, it's really not. There's close and then there's over the mark way too close. This situation is the latter, and if you don't watch it, you'll end up ruining BOTH marriages. Which is highly selfish.
If you knew you didn't have much in common with your wife then you shouldn't have married her. But you made that choice to make sacrifices for her and COMMIT solely to her. You're not a teen anymore who can run about with whoever you please. Show you're wife that you love her and find things in common with her that you BOTH want to do. It doesn't have to be gaming or whatever else. Doesn't have to be baking either. Just find activities you both like and have fun together.
Abandon this other woman or tone down your 'friendship' with her. It's clear that you have some kind of underlying feelings for her and you obviously really enjoy spending time with her too. There's potential that this friendship could soon turn into an affair at any given moment. This is how it always begins, when men and women find they enjoy life much more outwith their marriage. Compliments 'ooh, nice dress' and hugs? All of these things are what lead to cheating - physically - and you're clearly already cheating emotionally! Can't you see that? Wake up before it's too late! You should be telling your wife she looks beautiful and nice - not this Trollop! She has her own husband to do that.
Your wife and her husband have every right to be concerned and if I was in either of their positions, I would be concerned too. Show your wife you love her, for any favour. She clearly loves you anyway. You know, that what you are doing, is wrong. You don't really need anyone on here to tell you so.1
Most Helpful Guy
You know the answer to this already.
Don't hide behind the technical definition of "cheating".
You know what's in your heart. You're the only one that can answer this.1