I have received a lot of flak from my wife and my best friend's husband for hanging out together 1 on 1. we play video games, go hiking, go to formal dinners 1 on 1, go to the gym, and once got back from Denny's at 3 in the morning. we even hug, and lightly flirt, by compliments (nice dress, you look beautiful/handsome). my wife slapped me in the face when I hugged my friend in front of her. both our spouses forbade us from hanging, and now we have to sneak out to see each other.
what's the etiquette? we're just friends
Most Helpful Girl
It is ok to have an opposite sex friend, but in this situation you have the type of emotional intimacy with your friend that should be reserved for your spouse. You might as well be banging her because it will end your marriage anyway, sneaking around to hang out with her.0
Most Helpful Guy
It should be fine, but you need to be aware of your wife's feelings too, just because you know that you and your friend are purely platonic, doesn't mean your wife knows that, and when she sees you having that much fun with another woman she will likely feel neglected or jealous of your relationship with your friend. If you can show your wife that your friend is essentially a sister to you it may help with the situation.0