My co-workers wife got drunk and had a one night stand. My co-worker became violent I remember cops coming to our work and talking with him/restraining order against him. He wanted to kill the guy who he's wife slept with. Now that I'm getting older and will eventually marry (hopefully still looking for her 😍) I'm getting a gut check kind of moment.
i remember sitting at a bar drinking after work and he looked meek and haggard talking about how he felt shame, anger and dispair all I could think "what a tool" since he forgave her and stuck with her.
so now I wonder is infidelity something that in vowes count as for better and worse and should be worked through or is it a a complete deal breaker. He's love for her shows they now have a kid together and seem very happy although I know he feels like he's pride has been shredded.
Infedility and affairs something that should worked through with counseling and more quality time or is it a complete end to the marriage?
- For better or worse (I'll fight for my marriage)Vote A
- Good bye, you don't respect and no amount begging will stop me.Vote B
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Affairs, abuse and addiction. Participants in those three destroy their own marriage and a divorce is a foregone conclusion.
A drunk woman who bangs someone once at a drunken party is guilty of evil in breaking trust. She has a lot of work to do to rebuild that trust. But it does not necessarily constitute an unforgiveable affair.2