So I'm engaged now and both of my parents like my Fiance and had an Idea that he wanted to marry me. I let them both know that if he ever did propose we aren't going to be married right away but 5+ to get our lives ready. So talking to my parents they said they wished he'd asked their permission before proposing. The thing is they already like him and knew we'd eventually be married. So whats the big idea... What do you guys think, does this matter?
Most Helpful Guy
I think it all depends on the girl. this day in age there is certainly no rule than men have to ask but it may be a nice courtesy
in my situation I wanted to simply tell my wife's family I planned to propose but she felt like it was antiquated institution that suggested that somehow she needed her parents ok to marry someone. So she was firmly against me asking her parents or even telling them I was going to propose
so it is kind of up to you. if you don't want him to ask your parents tell him and tell your parents it is your desire for him not to ask. IF you are for him asking or neutral and your parents would prefer it then you should tell him he should probably ask0
Most Helpful Girl
It depends on the girls relationship with her parents.
That's what it comes down to really, and it's something that the guy should already know about if he's been with her long enough to propose.
If you are a family orientated person, and therefore very close to your parents etc, it would be a common courtesy to the family to ask. Only because it's not just about proposing and committing to her, but as she's so close to them it's about committing to her family as well.
I'm sure there are many instances where it may be confusing, especially if she or her family aren't that traditional... So it's understandable if he didn't ask.
But i guess for me, being close to my family means that anyone trying to put a ring on it needs to ask them first... if for no other reason than for them to warn him of what a huge mistake that would be.. lol0