I had an affair with a single female friend for a month, and she is threatening to tell my wife about our affair. how do I stop her?
my wife is really sweet and does not deserve to be hurt by my friend.
Most Helpful Girl
Your a dirty man whore who hurt your sweet wife. Don't blame your side chick for wanting to make things right. And your a dick for cheating. But its even worse that you want to lie about it. How in the living fuck do you live with yourself sleeping next to a good woman that loves and supports you enough to fucking marry you while you know you are a fucking piece of shit. I say tell your wife the truth and pray she can find means to forgive you. And know that when she finds out that you cheated, and lied to her face that you will not be forgiven. Your only hope for forgiveness is to be honest and devote the rest of your life trying to make I up to her. P. s. You deserve to be alone.0
Most Helpful Guy
Well then if you knew your wife is so sweet and cute then why would you hurt her by having an affair, that's not right of you to do so. I don't think you can stop her, don't give in to her blackmails, never negotiate with such people. First you need to ask yourself, have you realized your mistakes, you should never repeat it again.
There are two things you can do:
1. Don't give in to the other's woman's blackmail and let her go and tell your wife, let your wife know about it and when your confronts you, then you can handle the situation, you can apologize to her and tell her whatever you did was a mistake and you won't repeat it again.
In this case your wife will come to know the truth through the other woman and you will be in a reactive kind of situation and so you will less control over the situation.
2. Gather the courage, before the other woman tells your wife go and approach your wife and just tell her the truth, the full truth without hiding a single fact, tell her everything that you did during the period. Of course your wife will be surprised, she will feel cheated , betrayed and so be prepared for the consequences, she may slap you, so take it and be prepared to hear everything your wife will say, be prepared to face your wife's anger.
The good thing here is even before the other woman can tell your wife, your wife will come to know about the truth from you and not from her so irrespective to what may happen later the other woman's threats won't have any effect anymore, you won't be scared of her anymore because then you'll have nothing to lose.
In the second step you will have more control over the situation compared to the first.
However I can't say how your wife's reaction would be, I can't predict that. It's possible she may break up with you, she may ask for divorce, or it's completely possible that she may forgive you and give you another chance so it all depends upon your wife's nature and personality. Hence that's a risk you must be prepared to take if you really love your wife.
You need to decide what you want to do.
1. Are you going to continue giving in to the demands of the other woman for your lifetime or until your wife finds out the truth? Do you want to live in fear?
2. Are you going to tell the truth to your wife yourself and then face the consequences?1