Because you know, "you don't truly love me unless you actually marry me, and THEN I MIGHT have sex with you, MAYBE, although I don't actually OWE you sex so don't be prissy if I don't, BUT please note that you signed the piece of paper so don't even think about cheating with someone else, be faithful to my abstinence, will ya?".
- YES, it is guilt trippingVote A
- NO, it is not guilt trippingVote B
Most Helpful Girl
It really depends on the person. I'm sure there are people who use it as a guilt-trip. But they would be in the minority. Most people who are saving themselves are doing it for religious reasons or saving themselves for someone who they truly love and who loves them.
I can see how it can seem like a guilt trip. But I think most people just want to be with someone who cares about them. It can be hard going through relationships and having the person use you and stuff. I've been through that many times and it hurts so much.
I didn't wait. But I've been thinking about just staying celibate for a while because I'm having a hard time finding someone worth my time lol.1
Most Helpful Guy
Not necessarily but it may come off that way. I think the whole "no sex until marriage" is stupid. People (women) mostly do it because they have been brought up hearing about how it used to be done and how back then it was magical n shit. What they fail to realize is that "back then" when a teenage girl or boy thought about sex after marriage, they thought about sex that was about to happen relatively soon. If you were starting to think about sex when 13 or so, you weren't far off from getting married and actually having sex.
Nowadays people marry way later in life than they used to and to withhold sex for that long is not exactly the best idea.3