So people my husband for years feels that only he can have friendships with the opposite sex. He goes through my phone one day and sees that I have recently been having conversatings with the opposite sex. At this point though I'm in the wrong so much that he is checking my phone everyday and reading my messages constantly. Now we've been together for 13 years and I know he's had many conversations with many women and maybe more but it doesn't bother me. Can someone tell me what his problem is?
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His problem is that he's a dick.
He is also resentful and does not trust you.
Although it will lead to more arguments, demand that he delete all female phone numbers off his phone. If he refuses, accuse him of cheating on you with those women and say he's a cheating bastard.
Ask him why he's talking to other women unless he is cheating on you. When he says "they're just friends", respond with "so are my friends... they're just friends".
Trust is the core bond of your marriage. Almost all of my friends are girls, and my wife knows this. My groomsmen were all girls. When I get into one of my reclusive states where I don't go out to see anyone for weeks or months, my wife steals my phone, texts one of my girl friends and sets up a "date" so that I don't neglect my friends. That's the level of trust a marriage needs to survive.2