I want to know why it is so hard for me to find a woman.
I am puzzled, confused, and just down right don't understand... I have never been in a relationship and haven't had a girlfriend either, but want a relationship. I want to know why it is so hard for me to find a woman. I am not the best looking guy, not a sharp dresser, and don't have a great job, but I work hard and have good morals, kind and I want to be married, have kids... I would love to have a family. Most guys I know don't even want to hear the word 'marriage' or have kids and hear I am, can't even talk to a woman, but want something that seems impossible to have. What do I do?
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Most Helpful Opinion
Stop being so idealistic about the future when you have not yet established "a present". Just ask a woman out and keep it simple and fun and ask her a lot of questions and listen to her. She will respond by asking you questions once she sees your interested in her as a person and get naturally curious as to why you are not talking about yourself. Tell her what you want from a relatonship someday and not about what you want 5 years from now and she will guide you the rest of the way. Women are not looking for a sharp dresser so much as they are looking for a sharp genuine person they can feel comfortable talking and being themselves with. Someone dating you wants to feel comfortable with you. Someone who is martried to you wants what you have mentioned above. Takle it one step at a time and be yourself.
What Girls Said 3
hmm that's rare. all my guy friends freak out at the word 'marriage'. well I'm the same way. I am attractive and I want to get married right now but life is so busy at the moment, I have no chance of dating and finding that right guy.Just do your best in life. if you aren't the best dresser, then try to focus on that. if you don't have a great job, try getting a promotion or getting a better job. always keep your dreams close to you and work towards them. that's what I believe in.
Well, I would recommend fixing the flaws that you admitted that are more easily fixable, specifically the way you dress and your job. I don't really know what else to tell you.
Do you put yourself out there and approach women and ask them out? Or do you wait for women to come up to you and ask you out?
What Guys Said 2
If you want to have pretty girlfriend, you must be helpfull and lovely to her.
I hear you man. I'm the same situation as you. I honestly don't know what to tell you because we're in the same boat. A lot of guys, especially those PUA and player-type guys don't want to be married and start a new family. They don't want meaningful relationships, instead, they just sleep with many women as they can.