- I'm married.10% (5)11% (6)11% (11)Vote
- I'm engaged.6% (3)4% (2)5% (5)Vote
- I'm in a relationship but not engaged (yet).37% (18)15% (8)25% (26)Vote
- Dating but don't plan on getting married.2% (1)7% (4)5% (5)Vote
- I'm a single pringle.27% (13)41% (22)34% (35)Vote
- F**K MARRIAGE. F**K RELATIONSHIPS. I'm done with love. *cries*4% (2)9% (5)7% (7)Vote
- I'm a potato and potatoes don't get married or fall in love14% (7)13% (7)13% (14)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
Going into 4 years of marriage, was just about 30 at the time, and 7 years of being together (and 5 living together).
I was really reluctant to get married. I had enough friends at the time, many of them getting married, and I saw one pair of love birds after another growing distant after marriage (with or without kids). I was afraid to ruin what we had.
I didn't know what changed. I thought maybe nothing, since my now-wife and I were living together. We're both independent people, work separate jobs (she's a book publisher/editor, I'm a software developer). I thought that'd be it, we'd just do some paperwork and have a wedding. Yet there was something that made me fear marriage anyway.
But then finally got married, and I didn't do that to "cement our love" or anything like that. I did it for practical reasons: my career was getting stable and I wanted to get a house together.
And then things changed. Shared income was a big change for me, meaning I can't just go bar-hopping with the guys anymore -- waste of "our" money and also just didn't seem right keeping the *wife* waiting/worrying at home. Mostly I just always feel the need to consider her side with everything now. I do miss being wild and single.
But that didn't really stop us from being happy. We always had a very open stream of communication, and I think that helped the most from keeping us ever growing distant, like so many of my friends who got married and then ended up on a bitter note.
That said, I'm only into the 4th year now so I'll need some more time to find out for sure, but I can't ever imagine us separating. We're partners for life now.3
Most Helpful Girl
i am in a relationship, though not engaged yet.
we've talked about marriage at length and, recently, he's said some things that have lead me to believe that it's coming, likely within the year (recently, he asked what my ring size is and what kind of gemstone i wanted, though my birthday is next week and we both agree that holiday/birthday proposals are tacky).
i will likely be 30-31 by the time i walk down the aisle. a lot of people think it's weird that, at my age, this will be my first (and only) marriage, but i'm honestly glad that i waited for the right person.1