Honestly, I think it's stupid to worry about the stats (especially since it's 50-50, not 90-10), because why worry about other people's failing relationships? If anything, people should wondering WHY those marraiges failed and avoid that.
And if you're scared of marraige, why enter into any relationship in the first place? Most people rarely take with their highschool sweetheart, so what date in highschool? To me, it's the same logic.
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because if, statistically, there is a high chance that your relationship won't last, you have to look at what happens if it does, indeed fail.
Child support? alimony? having a judge strip ownership of your house from you and grant it to your spouse, despite it being bought in your name and with your money? vindictive exes?
I am not opposed to the idea of marriage, but if the relationship goes south, it often ruins lives, at least financially. And, despite every claim to the contrary, it tends to hurt men, financially, much more then it does women, when things fall apart.
As for, why enter into a relationship in the first place? because if my girlfriend of 40 years leaves me, all that happened was a relationship ended. Wife of 3 months leaves me, and I can be financially ruined.
did you know that a woman's divorce lawyer can LOSE HIS JOB, supposedly for "failing to do everything he can for his client," if he does not encourage her to bring up sexual, physical, or emotional abuse, either of her, or of the kids? EVEN IF NO SUCH ABUSE EVER OCCURRED? A divorce court does not need evidence a crime occurred, just the claim backed by witnesses, and so a woman's lawyer has to push for such lies, knowing they are lies, OR ELSE LOSE HIS JOB, in order to get her the best possible deal out of everything?
Men see marriage as a trap that can destroy their lives, not because it ties them down and strips them of their promiscuous freedom (despite the typical myth that THAT is the reason to avoid marriage), but because if anything goes wrong, and divorce happens, unless their is gratuitous proof she did some great wrong, he knows her lawyers, and the judge, will work to destroy him, and he will be left homeless, and penniless, when all is said and done. And if they had kids, despite his need to pay child support (or else face jail), statistically, his ex is likely to either fight to prevent him from having ANY visitation rights, or is likely to do nothing but talk shit in his absence, tarnishing him in the eyes of his children, who will see him not as "daddy," but as the vile monster from his vindictive ex wife's twisted stories.
Some marriages last. Some last and stay happy. Some end in a way that harms no one. But there are enough horror stories out there that men have reasons to run far from marriage.0