My mom is an amzing and beautiful women. My mom still loves my dad. He still loves her too she said. Lately, he has been talking to another women. My mom told him to stop texting her and he said no. He still comes home at night, but I feel like he's not going to soon. He said he wants space, so thats what my mom is giving him. It just makes me upset that my dad didn't want to stop texting the other women. All I want to do is cry. I don't know what my dad wants that my mom can't provide. I don't look at him the same for the time being. I just hope they fix things. all I can do is pray for them. Is there anything I should do to help or should i just stay out of things? Any advice or similar stories you can share?
Most Helpful Guy
There's no love when one has a foot in two boats.
The only resolution is for mom to kick dad out.
Only then will he be confronted with the reality of the other gal working out or not.
If not, then dad will not stray again, problem solved. + mom will cater to him more often & stop saying NO to his needs (that others don't object to fill).
If gone forever, then mom has a chance to find love w/o a tar baby scaring off prospects & not loving her.
What you want can't be selfish in this case, it happens after kids are grown and parents "finally free" to be more self serving... happy. The only things you can do is superficial, e. g. invite them to dances & socials that renew their romance & eventually alone time. Otherwise, your involvement in years of struggle, sacrifice turned into a battle with confusion will only inflame things and could turn them on you.
What your dad may want is a woman more willing to satisfy him for a change. Many women will accommodate him, since they are free of the baggage he loaded mom down with. He sees no way to unload mom but wishes she was the gal fulfilling him, not others.1
Most Helpful Girl
It's easier when your parents get along even if they aren't together.
Whether they split or stay together has nothing to do with you and pretty much nothing you do can fix it if things are already broken.
My parents split after six months of marriage (engaged for three years). It's been eighteen years and only for the last two have they been speaking and getting along again.
If they'd stayed together I'd have known what broken felt like from a much earlier age.
You don't hear this very often, but sometimes split parents are a god send. Sometimes they should never have got together, and it's great when they realise that. Even if they've had kids together.1