Okay I got into a discussion over this and my question is what's the point in marriage after 40? Really after any age where kids are no longer a realistic option or consideration and you both have your own lives set up the way you want? I was raised to believe that marriage is about building something together so what can be built after this time in your lives?
Yes it comes also from my own life that I don't know and am beginning to think I should not and will not date until I have my own place and have it set up how I want. (Farms take quite a few years to set up right unless you've got a lot of money to throw at it on too of buying the ace). Once I reach that point though what would be the point? Is marriage really about building something together or is it all just about passing the time together with no regard to what you do with it. (I. e. You have no kids together, you would have to compromise on a place etc.)
Most Helpful Guy
I think you're looking at marriage in the wrong way. Marriage isn't just about becoming dependent on someone else. It isn't about giving up the things you're most passionate about, and it certainly isn't just about popping out a bunch of kids.
Marriage is about announcing to yourself and to everyone around you that you've found someone you are comfortable with to share the most sacred parts of your life with. Marriage is about revealing to someone else, typically the only other person in life that would know, the most intimate, personal, and private things about yourself.
You are literally there to be with a person that you are so comfortable with in life that he will know everything about you - almost everything. There's nothing better than being in a relationship where you don't have to always wash yourself first before hugging and kissing, where you don't have to worry about whether your hair is messed up or whether you have grool coming out of your woohoo or not.
The man you choose should be the man that loves you no matter what your gross parts are or even your best parts. You will laugh with him, cry with him, get mad at him, but at the end of the day you will curl up to him and feel comforted knowing that there is one other person that you can share every part of your life with - things that you'd always have to bottle up inside of you otherwise.
That's what marriage is all about to me. There is a point to it after 40. There's nothing better than knowing someone and being known by someone in that way.0
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I feel you. I think of the point of marriage is family too, if not for having kids why not just be live in boyfriend-girlfriend forever. I am married and my Husband is the love of my life and I can't wait to get old and watch our kids get old, and maybe babysit our Grand-kids if we have some but if something happened and I was back on the market. I'd finished raising my kids and then I'd probably consider getting a room-mate (a like-minded female) to talk to at night, grow old with, travel with and what not, but yeah I wouldn't see the point of marriage at that point. Let them have theirss and me have mine at that point. You figure at 40, 45, 50 you should be pretty established & if your able to stand on your own what really are the advantages just make sure you have a will and a living will to make sure your wishes are respected. I'd love to have a room-mate and just date at that point, best of both worlds... why not?0