So hey guys, I'm a 20 year old female and basically my parents want me to start looking for a man right now and I'll tell you why. It's because they think I'm a loser. I'm still in school, a community college mind you and I will be graduating late. They think I will never get a degree and that I'm not very smart or will ever find a job so they just want me to be married off to some guy they find so that I'll be safe and I can just say the excuse that I'm still in school. Just the thought if this makes me feel disgusted and ashamed and scared. I wish they believed in me and had more faith in me then maybe I would feel inspired and motivated but I really do feel like a loser and I'm scared about what I will do in the real world. Should I just go along with them?
Most Helpful Guy
Your life, your decisions. If you don't wanna get married, they can't force you. I too started college at 20, nothing wrong with that. You're not a loser and it's better than not studying at all, right? Prove them wrong, get married when you want to.0
Most Helpful Girl
That's pretty f-ed up from your parents. They should definitely have more faith in you. Marrying a guy will not solve your problems, marrying a guy will not make you successful or feel complete. One of my friends got pressured into getting married by her family because they felt she wasn't smart-so she ended marrying anyone. The guy ended up abusing her and almost killing her. She had a baby with him and escaped. Now they are in this ugly custody battle. I say do what inspires you, get an education and be independent. Even if your parents don't agree.0