Should it be okay for a guy to live with a girlfriend? If not, what about after engagement? Or just after marriage?
I have mixed feelings about this, and would like some options.
Also, what about things regarding sleeping? I wouldn't have sex before marriage, but would sleeping in the same bed be okay if we didn't have sex? Or different beds? Different bedrooms altogether?
And when would it be okay to see her in her underwear? I feel it's best to wait for marriage before seeing each other naked, but underwear I'm not sure...
By the way, the reason I personally have mixed feelings about these things is because I'm a Christian and unsure what choices He would say where right...
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's good to live with one another before marriage. That way you know what to expect if the two of you did get married. There's a world of difference between seeing one another for a day and living together. You see their usual living habits and learn to adapt to them.
I also see no issues with seeing one another naked or sleeping in the same bed. They're living together and it's their home, they should be able to be comfortable in it no matter what they choose to wear or not wear.0
Most Helpful Guy
I think living together before marriage is a great idea. After all, a large part of marriage is living with the other person. Personally I'd rather live with someone for a while and find out that it wasn't going to work, rather than finding out after marriage. While you can get to know things about a person while not living together, I don't you can get a full picture of how it's really going to be unless you actually live together. It's like visiting a vacation spot many times and being totally happy with it. Then when you pack up and move there you find out the locals are rude, jobs are hard to find, there is little entertainment, etc. I will say though, living habits do change over the time, and that can be a positive or a negative.
As long as there is no pressure from her to have sex, I don't see a problem with sleeping in the same bed. And, if you've seen her in a bikini you've pretty much seen her in her underwear. Obviously these are just my opinions, and if your faith is of high importance to you, you can only do what you feel your faith will allow you to do.0