I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. I leave for a 7 month cruise in September. He says I'll have a ring waiting for me when I get back. I want to marry him. I think about it every day and imagine myself with his last name, but I'm not as secure as most married women I meet. Does that just come with time? I don't want to make the rest of our lives miserable with my stupid insecurities. Should I wait for them to go away before even thinking about marriage?
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I believe that you will never get over ALL of your insecurities, and if you wait too, then you will never get anything done in life.
I don't think that marriage (or having a solid relationship) means that you walk on clouds all the time, or that you always think about them, or that you don't have any doubts. I think you know you are with the one you should be with when, you get in a fight, or you think about getting in a fight, and you are sure that you are willing to take that step through to work it out, rather then letting things fall apart.
I would say if you are willing to do that for this guy, and he is willing to do it for you, then you have something solid, and you should spend the rest of your lives working though each of your doubts together.