I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now we have a 1 year old child together. We don't stay together and it doesn't seem like we are going to stay together anytime soon as he is the breadwinner at home.
He is building for his mom, buying her food, toiletry and recently she asked him to get her a helper. Mind you he doesn't earn much and like I said we also have a child of our own. To cut the long story short, I want to have a proper family by that I mean I'm ready to get married actually I want to get married and stay with the father of my child and I feel like I'm running out of patience and I can't sit around and wait for him to build his mother's life before we start our own. Am I selfish or would you also leave someone if they are not ready to make that kind of commitment after 3 years of dating I mean I don't think it takes that long to see if someone is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with or not.
- leave he is not worth it 3 years is too long25% (1)40% (2)33% (3)Vote
- Stay and work it out50% (2)60% (3)56% (5)Vote
- you are just being selfish0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
- I would also leave25% (1)0% (0)11% (1)Vote
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This is your choice and no one elses. However, his mum has had plenty of time to build her own life, even if she's a single lady. Just like my mum has done over the last 11 years. She's also built a life for my sister and I. She just didn't want to be dependent on either of us, so we're free to go to uni.
Personally, I wouldn't hang around too long. Even with a child, you're young enough to start again with a new guy who isn't fazed by you being a mum.0