I've been engaged to my fiance for almost 3 1/2 years. I told him I wanted to wait until I finished grad school to get married. Long story short my parents are not accepting of me marrying him because he is of a different ethnicity. I'm trying to give my parents time to accept it as I just introdced my fiance almost a year ago. I don't want to plan behind my parents back.
my fiance's mother has been trying to get involved. She wants to throw me a shower because thats what she does with her friends (so the shower will be all of her friends). She keeps asking when the wedding date will be and where to have it. I told her I would let her know when i set the date but i did say sometime in late September.
Yesterday she pushed again and told me she really thinks I need to set a date and book a place to give people time to get their schedule set (my fiances grandmother wants to go to england in september).
My family has been going through a lot the past couple months- my cousin has been having problems, my grandfather is being treated for cancer and my brother had brain surgery and had complications and almost died last week. So I don't want to push anything with my family now cause they are stressed. I told my fiances mother this and she said something to the effect of "well there is always going to be something you can't put ypur life on hold"
I don't want my fiances parents to pay because I feel like this will gove them automatic say in the wedding. I politely declined and told them I have all the money I need saved. They insisted and won't take no for an answer.
correct me if i'm wrong but i thought the brode got to be in charge of planning.
Most Helpful Guy
In fact it is the bride that does the plans. If you want this wedding to be your wedding and not everyone else's party stay away from the grooms side until you have all your planning done or this will end up a cluster feck. It's all nice that they want to contribute and all but it could very easily go just as you fear , they helped financially so now they feel they have the say so regardless as to how you feel. Mention your fear of this happening to your fiancée so he can help you watch for it coming1
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Most Helpful Girl
No offense but your parents sound straight from hell. I really feel for you. You're a grown up and can make your own decisions. They either have to suck it up or possibly lose their relationship with their daughter and for what? Because they don't approve of something so small? What are they honestly getting out of disliking him? You need to sit down and really talk to them because they aren't being rational.
You also need to talk to your in-laws. They need to relax. They're doing nothing but adding unnecessary pressure on you. Tell them that you NEED more time.
Your wedding is YOUR wedding. Don't let either sides dictake you. This is supposed to be your day! Don't try to please either side. Good luck. I hope that everything works out.0