So here it is...I ve been dating this guy for 3 months already last night we were hanging out and he asked me "do you love me?" ...I wanted to say"Yes I do damn it!" But my answer was I Like you a lot and I care a lot about u. He then asked me do you see yourself being in love with me in the future? I said yes definitely...I then in return I asked him "do you love me" he said Umm I need to get to know you more.." Did he really want to say he loved me and was hoping I would say yes I do love you
or is he checking to see how sprung I am.
Who came up with these rules. Like the other person has to say it first. Should I wait until he says it or should I confess and tell him the truthe ? Help !
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If you actually do love him, then you shoudn't be afraid to tell him. Love should be something that gives you courage, and you shoud have the courage to tell him. If it makes you really uneasy to have to be the one to say it first, then maybe don't plan it all out. Maybe just the next time when opportunity arises, follow your instincts and say it.
I think the reason he didn't say it is maybe the same reason you did. It's just something that we can't really say so freely and really mean it and whatnot.
I think the reason a lot of us are so hesitant to say is probably one or a couple of the following:
a) We're afraid to how they will react- we wouldn't want to scare them off or something, but at the same time, we probably want to hear it back as well...and if we're unsure of what they might say...wer're unsure of whether or not we should say it.
b) We're stubborn and we want the other person to say it first- it's always nice to know you're loved, and then that gives us eventual confidence to say it back. And if it's girls, we think sometimes it's the guy's 'duty' to say it first, haha.
c) We're somewhere in between- between strong like and love that is. Or maybe we're confused as to waht the word really means to us and to the other person, so we don't really want to use it until we're sure of it's definition.
Personally, I don't say it because I used to say it to my guy...until he asked me if I really actually loved him, or was it a strong like. I thought about it, and I found myself in category c) so I didn't tell him I loved him again. I just want to make sure that I really do beofre I say it, because I could tell that he was kind of hurt that I kind of said it a little too cavalier.1