I am curious about guy's thoughts on marriage.
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I thought I did but the longer I live the less I like the idea. Mostly because of the girls I've dated (not all girls). I've always been a loner. I always had friends and usually had to purposefully find time to isolate myself. I liked being alone. But I don't like being alone for too long. So I try and date girls. Instead of having a nice pleasant bonding experience I'm forced to go through a series of trials to try and rid a girl of all the emotional ghosts she has haunting her brain. I have to prove I'm not a player. Prove I'm not going to abandon her. Prove she's the most attractive girl in the world to me. A lot of these things I fail at because I remain honest. Most girls I meet are cute but I don't believe in the one or this idea that this girl is super special and the only one for me and I don't lie about it. I don't make promises about the future because I change and I don't know what I'm going to be doing. Etc. Etc. and because I don't give girls exactly what they want from me I get tossed away and forgotten because I'm not what they're looking for. Overtime I got pretty disenchanted with the idea of marriage. I still love the idea of marriage but when I cross the idealistic envisioning of marriage that I have in my head with the reality of the girls I've dated/tried to date I'm pretty sure it'd be closer to a hell on earth disguised as being pleasant. So yeah I'd love to marry but I'm pretty sure it's not cohesive with who I am as a person. I'll admit that I'm young and my worldview is only as wide as my own personal experience. So nothing's absolute to me. Maybe I'll change.0