My husband still loves me and we have sex at least three times a week but it used to be everyday. I was just wondering why after three years it's less? Is it not as fun? Or is work taking a lot of his energy? We do bondage and stuff like that so idly why it would be boring.
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When the relationship is new, the sex is a great adventure and seems to generate its own energy. Once you have settled into a relationship (and been in it for a while) things cools off a bit. It becomes a little harder to get the energy up for sex, even though the sexual attraction is still very strong.
Plus work and other things do tend to take up a lot of energy.
If you still have the same drive and energy, that is admirable, but are you using as much energy during the day as he is? In any case, he has less energy to jump into those things, but if you put forth a little more effort, you should be able to generate the needed energy in him. Sexy clothes, special touches, anything that can get him going. And do not be afraid to be the one to initiate the sex. When he comes to bed, be waiting for his body and get him going. He will appreciate it. But is it was a bit more tiresome day for him, do not force it. That will cause negative feelings.0