Let's say money, school, and work aren't an issue.
How long of pushing back the wedding date would you just give up
or start feeling that the engagement was to just keep you around?
- 1 year30% (20)29% (9)30% (29)Vote
- 2 years42% (28)26% (8)37% (36)Vote
- 3 years7% (5)10% (3)8% (8)Vote
- 4 years9% (6)3% (1)7% (7)Vote
- 5 years3% (2)0% (0)2% (2)Vote
- 6+ years9% (6)32% (10)16% (16)Vote
were both employed
I have a house
He "says" he wants to go back to school for the 3rd time later this year but he's already dropped out of 2 programs
I already said I don't mind a cheap wedding with a few friends and family
He says maybe we should wait longer.
I'm feeling strung along honestly
Most Helpful Guy
i didn't vote on a timeframe. in my opinion (or my preference an engagement shouldn't be entered into without a time frame established, if not before then shortly after the engagement. i guess at max i'd give a person a year and then expect a date to be set and plans start to be made. so even if the date is 2,3,4 years out i'd want to start making preliminary plans, looking at/discussing venues, etc
how long have you been waiting? it doesn't look like you mentioned that.
Most Helpful Girl
2 years is more than sufficient to pick a date and location and plan the wedding. If we had a specific reason to want to do it on a later date (for example my friends who were engaged 3 years so they could get married on their 9 year anniversary and thus celebrate their 10 year / 1 year married) then that's different... but I wouldn't get engaged if I'm not ready to be married within a year or two.0