So my boyfriend proposed 2 weeks ago after 7 months of knowing each other, I didn't reply, but we've been talking on and off since then. Normally regular couples speak on the phone or via text everyday. I just want to know why he can't do this with me. I do start conversations sometimes via text. But he never starts the conversation first anymore. AND Why would a man ask a girl to marry him (face to face) but hardly talk to her? It doesn't make sense?
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly what did you expect he proposed he said by proposing he loves you and is putting everything he has in his heart on the line to ask you if you will marry him and you don't answer to him to any man that's like the worst out come ever. If you said no at least the guy could move on with his life, if you said yes he can move forward with you, but saying nothing or leaving him hanging it's like toying with his heart. If you told someone you loved them and wanted to spend the rest of your life with them and they said o well I have to think about it or simply didn't answer you'd be crushed because that is worse than a no. For the love of God woman let him off the hook and give him a yes or a no already so he can do something rather than just be in an in between situation like that. Hell at this point a no would be more decent than what your doing. Seriously you've made him wait for two weeks just because your to afraid to answer a simple question. Hell it's being engaged not even married at that point you'd still have time to call things off if you wanted. This is how he feels he's roped his heart out and shown it to you of you take it his heart lives if you don't he puts it back in but what you're doing now metaphorically is putting his heart in a box that shrinks with every passing day. Okay here is a question very simple do you love Yes or no? Don't worry about anything else there will be more questions just simply answer yes or no.3
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Most Helpful Girl
Doesn't sound like he's very good at communicating nor what it means to be in a serious relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. AKA: immaturity. If he is also 20 then this does not surprise me. While I'm aware that many people get married at young ages, it doesn't mean it's a wise thing for them to do. It's kinda like a baby who's just learning to walk going out and doing a marathon. That baby is gonna fall on his face... a LOT. I suggest taking adulthood on a little more slowly.
Also, one can never really know a person all that well when they've only known them for less than a year. It simply takes time and lots of it to REALLY understand a person well enough to even consider spending the rest of your life with them.0