I'm independent and don't think I could handle sharing money with someone or not having the privacy of my own room, and I feel it would be weird if I went off alone at random. I did fall in love with my friend and I still love him but things didn't work out and I don't think I could love anyone like I loved him.
I know a lot of couples do things separately at times but my parents say it's not a good idea, yet I would want that independence and time apart... or maybe I'm just bad at commitment. Even with my friend and I, I love him to death and I was heartbroken when we couldn't be a couple (I still love him) and as much as I could sit and talk to him all night, there were occasions where I needed some space. I also tend to get irritated if I'm around the same person for too long (except him... I only really needed space when we fought, but occasionally other times). I'm not a very open person either. As much as I'd want to marry and start a family I don't think it's for me. Is this weird/wrong?
Most Helpful Guy
Nah, screw what anyone else tells you otherwise. You pick and decide you own fate and y on you want to be and what you want to do or not want to do. Don't follow the crowd and o what is expected to be the "norm" just because everyone else said that is the way they expect of you. If you don't really want to marry then you don't have to. It's optional, not obligational or mandatory.
Get your priorities straight, if your own finances and having control of them is very important to you as well as the same goes for privacy then it's just going to be your personal priorities over anyone or anything else. Marriage is always about compromise, growth, and development, which are ongoing and should be ongoing processes. If compromises and negotiations don't work out, then it is time to move on and split, instead of being unhappy about it.0
Most Helpful Girl
No, of course not. It's very unhealthy to be around someone 24/7 because its suffocating. You don't have to marry or have children or share a room with a guy. This is the 21st century, and your ideology is more common than you thought. Take me for example. Recently I've dicovered that I'm happy living an idependent life. I love children, but I don't see myself as a mother at the moment. I don't see myself married. I don't know If I'll ever change my mind about it in the future. I don't know If I'm bisexual or heterosexual. However, I know for a fact that the universally accepted thruth of love and marriage doesn't necessarily have to be what I believe in or what I want for myself. There is no correct or incorrect way of loving someone or staying with someone. Even the most perfect couple we perceive are having marriage problems of their own, and some of these perceived perfect couples end in a divorce. What you want for yourself should always come first. The person you are right now is the one you should focus on. You don't want marriage or children? so be it! your ideology is as important as everyone elses. :D1