I've been together with my wife for 12 years, married for 7. She basically slept with 2 guys she met at a bar, she came home drunk and crying. She told me everything and said she would do everything to save our marriage. After thinking a while I told her she has 4-6 months to prove it, after 6 months I would divorce her if she wasn't able to prove her love to me.
During those 6 months she cooked my favourite meals to me, tried to be affectionate (kissing, cuddling, sex etc.), I of course was being cold and distant to her. I slept in another room and she slept in our bedroom.
She would cry to sleep every night, she also asked me to sleep with her, I refused.
In short she did everything to prove it to me.
During those 6 months there was no sex, talking when necessary, no kissing or cuddling.
When exactly 6 months passed I came home dressed up in a suit with a bouquet of roses (we didn't celebrate our anniversary which was at this time 2 weeks ago).
I told her that I have forgiven her, she of course was happy and crying, I told her to dress up because I was taking her out. We went out and I had one of my friends set up our bedroom with candles etc. We came home and were making love for like 2 hours. Later that night while cuddling she cried and said she thinks I'm being too nice and she doesn't deserve this kind of treatment instantly. I just cuddled with her and comforted her until she fell asleep. Next morning made love again for at least an hour.
What do you guys think? Was I being too nice?
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well yes, you are too nice, and that's quite amazing of you tbh. however, in the end, no one should tell u whether or not to leave ur wife. it's your opinion that matters most. you love her, and you've been with her for a long time. u can also think for yourself. if you were so willing to stay, that's your decision. if u had left, that was also ur decision.
im stressing this because i know people on this site will try to persuade u.2