I really like my last name, since it's the only one I've had my whole life so I'm just wondering :p I wouldn't mind taking my husband's name as it's the norm, but my family's name would probably not continue since my dad is the only son of his parents.
- No way!Vote A
- I'd consider it.Vote B
- Yes, why not.Vote C
- Yes, I hate my last name.Vote D
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The reason the woman took the last name of the husband was as a sign that she was apart of his family now, and was under his protection. Basicly it signfied that he was now responsible for her well being and protection both to him, her and others. So her refusing to take my last name would be to say that I am not worth that ie that she wants my resources but doesn't want to fully commit to me. I imagine it would be much like a man refusing to marry a woman, it would be a sign of not having a full commitment, a way of keeping one foot out the door incase things didn't work out. Now I know most are going to say that this is not how things work currentlY (the taking care of women) however over 80% of women expect men to pay for dates, men are still the primary breadwinners and women the primary spenders (80% of national spending (US) and 70% global) plus despite what women say when something happens they expect men to step up ie whether it be them hearing a noise at night and having the man investigate it or some guy harrassing her and expecting the man to step up and deal with it. We as a society despite what we like to say still expect men to function as they always have (not a bad thing except for the double standard) so if she expects me to function in such a capacity then I expect some kind of acknowledgement for doing so like the tradition of taking my name (and her functioning in traditional role as well (if I have to then so should he otherwise I'm giving far more then she is)). So that would be why I would not accept her not taking my name. If we where equal in all things then it would not be an issue, however that has never really happened as far as I can tell (irregardless of what others like to claim) and for me that would be a friendship not a romantic relationship so I probably wouldn't marry them to begin with. Obviously to each their own but that would be one of the reasons why the guy would be against taking the wifes name or having her keep her name.1