My fiance wanted me to show my family the wedding ring he got me so I did it in front of him and they were just like "oh... it's nice..." Then when my fiance left my sister told me it looks really cheap. A few weeks later my dad asked if my fiance was going to buy me a nice ring and I was like... I already have one. And then my dad was like a nice one like your sister in law has.
Cost doesn't really matter to me but my family is starting to make me feel bad about it.
My sister in law's ring that my brother bought her was at least $12,000. My fiance picked mine out as sort of an impulse buy on my birthday. We had been engaged for about 3.5 years at that point and he hadn't bought me an actual engagement ring. He picked it out at a distant relative's jeweler and paid less with a discount at about $1,500.
It's basically a 3/4 diamond solitaire white gold and looks similar to this:
Solitaire Wedding ring
My family thinks I accept less in life and I'm starting to wonder if I am? I'm not really a materialistic person but if I'm going to wear a ring for the rest of my life I want it to be something decent. I have been pretty patient and went 3.5 years without a decent ring. I wanted to pick out my own ring and had told my fiance that before so I was surprised (not in a good way) when he got me the ring.
Most Helpful Guy
I disagree with your family. It depends on his finances. It looks like a decent ring. If he could afford a lot more, then that's one thing, but judging someone by ring price is pretty petty ànd materialistic.8
Most Helpful Girl
My wedding band cost less than $100. It's a plain tungsten band that is simple, dark, durable, and has a way of looking better with every passing year. Like... me, and like my husband. <3
I can wear it to the gym, it doesn't catch on things, I don't have to be paranoid about checking the setting all the time to make sure "precious" stones aren't lost, etc. etc.
And it's beautiful in its simplicity.
At this point (married over 15 years), I have a couple of other wedding band sets that my husband actually made me. (He's a leatherworker by trade, but he also does metalwork, too.)
One of these sets is actually worth a few thousand in melt value, and would be worth five figures on the market I'm sure (it's 18k white gold and platinum) -- but that's not the point. The other sets are made of inexpensive metals like stainless steel and brass, but they're handmade and totally unique -- they are literally the only rings of their kind in the whole world.
These rings mostly for more "special" / dressy occasions. For day-to-day, I still wear the plain black band that my man put on my hand when he made me *his*, forever.
If you have a REAL commitment and you know it, it doesn't make ANY difference how much yr ring costs. That's between you and yr fiancé, and, frankly, it's none of yr family's business (this isn't the 17th century anymore, when a wedding could signify a future war alliance or geopolitical arrangement).
On the other hand -- you should make sure that YOUR FIANCE doesn't actually enjoy the idea of a more expensive ring.
A lot of men actually do. It's not a "marking territory" thing -- it's just that lots of men enjoy spending money on the finer things in life that matter to them, and they would genuinely delight in seeing a woman they love wearing an expensive band that they worked hard to pay for.
If yr fiancé is one of these men, then, you should give at least some consideration to that. (For men like that, rejecting an expensive ring and insisting on a simpler one can be like constantly rejecting compliments or gifts -- after a while it hurts! Remember, he's gna see you wearing that ring EVERY DAY for the rest of yr lives together.)
If he's not -- i. e. if both of you are frugal and have good financial sense -- and it's just yr family that's bugging you here, then, you should find the kindest, most diplomatic, and most polite way possible of telling yr family to butt out and mind their own fucking business.1
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