I was wondering if anyone had any advice on my situation. Tonight i invited my best friend over for some drinks with my wife and i , things started out fine with the usual banter of laughing and joking with each other , but as the night progressed and drink started to kick in i felt more and more like an outsider in the conversations and the banter between my wife and my best friend started getting more sexual innuendo orientated , this bothered me and when i tried to get in on the conversation my wife put me down sexually and although she put it across as a joke this hurt me , i have noticed many times before that my wife and my best friend seem to get on very well but tonight i felt very uncomfortable with things that were said , anyway to cut a long story short when my friend left i decided to talk to my wife about tonight's events , I told her that i felt like crap with all the flirting going on and asked her if she found him attractive. Perhaps i should never have said anything as this went down like a lead balloon and we ended up having a massive row and i'm now sleeping on the settee tonight. Was I wrong to say anything to her? Do you think that perhaps i came across as accusational? Any help would be grately appreciated...
Most Helpful Girl
Nope you are absolutely correct she crossed the boundry line and your trust and then flipped out because she was confronted by it... if she has nothing to hide or be ashamed of, why respond in such aggressive manner. There needs to be boundaries in ALL relationships and each partner needs to respect them... if you can't acknowledge you stepped over a boundary without becoming offensive why be in a relationship communication is KEY. And sounds to me like your girl got drunk and wanted the dick if you wernt there she probably would have been on his dick2
Most Helpful Guy
Wait... your wife was getting sexual with another man and then when you brought this up with her, she made YOU sleep on the couch? And you're asking if you overreacted? Dude do you have any respect for yourself?
It's funny because if you were getting sexual with another woman you would also end up on the couch... man this is why I ain't getting married...
I can guarantee you she has already slept with him/is cheating on you. How do I know? I don't date or do relationships. When I'm lonely I hit up Ashley Madison (I'm not proud of that). There is a trove of women who are bored of their husbands because as they put it: "He's a doormat and it's too predictable to me, etc".
Or maybe there is something wrong with me...2