My bro is getting married in November and my sis in law wants me to be a bridesmaid
currently plotting her death...
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I'm sorry to hear this! It sounds like you are not looking forward to being a bridesmaid!
I think you totally have a right not not be happy about it. Being a bridesmaid is a lot of work and expensive too! Plus maybe you just want to chill at the wedding and not have to actually do anything. I can get that too. Oftentimes a bridesmaid is expected to help get the venue ready (if the bride is doing her own decorations).
I think if you really don't want to do it, I would talk to your future sister in law. Explain that while you are completely flattered that she choose you to be a bridesmaid just let her know that you do not really feel comfortable being a bridesmaid. I'm sure she can find someone else to take your place or just have one less bridesmaid.
However if you can't get out of doing it, then just try to focus on the positive aspects of it. Hopefully you don't have to buy an expensive dress and hopefully she is kind to you through the whole process!0