I got a proposal from a very good profile; PHD from a reputed university in UK, good personality. I have not meet that person yet. Probably will talk to him over phone within some days. But the problem is the age gap. We have 7 years and 4 moths age gap.
That guy already completed his PHD and I am applying for PHD. I am 26 and he is 33.
Is that going to be a good match considering age gap, education etc?
I appreciate your personal opinions too.
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't worry about the age-gap, per se. I might wonder instead if you're at the same stage, interested in the same things. For example, he may be interested in quickly establishing his career (which may require relocation), setting up a home, and having a family. You may be many years from that point.
One of my friends became pregnant after she finished all her PhD coursework. Particularly because her child was born with some neurological issues, her time was divided between caring for him and researching/writing/defending her thesis. While defending it, her committee requested further work within a defined timeframe. At this point, she walked away from her PhD program with many (6?) years invested. Although she finally got a tenure track teaching position, she was stuck doing adjunct work for almost a decade, largely because she never finished her degree.
I'm not trying to dissuade you. If she had it to do all over, I'm sure my friend would choose her husband and son over her career again. Just be aware of the potential costs. In my opinion, the right relationship trumps all else in life. If you have it, you can be happy regardless of circumstances; if you don't have it, it can be hard to find contentment and satisfaction.
Most Helpful Girl
Lol funny enough my current boyfriend is six years and eight months my senior. I actually think the age gap is very fitting. with me he's learned how to love life again, he's remembering what it was like being younger and seems to enjoy himself more, like he has woken from a deep sleep he never realized he was in.
On the flip-side for me, I am learning more life-skills. he's taught me to be even more wise than I than I thought I was before. I've made smarter decisions, things he wished he could have done better. Also with age he's had more time to learn about himself, he know what he wants and to me he seems like a true man. until i dated him it seemed like i only dated boys. I love dating a guy that knows what he wants in life and has already succeeded in many aspects.
I think age gaps are a good thing, i think it makes for a healthier relationship, in the end i chose happiness. He made me happy so i ignored the things people said about age, I'm not really sure why we limit ourselves to something as silly as age, a number doesn't make a person who they are, only time does that.1