I'll provide for my child, but I don't want to be with her.
Most Helpful Girl
You just tell her what you just told us. You tell her that, and you also should tell your wife. You also should have a talk with yourself and really realize how much you have hurt that girl and your wife. You need to really repent.4
Most Helpful Guy
The most important thing is that you be okay with you. Imagine this, as a thought experiment: if there were no legal repercussions, no problems, no hurt feelings etc; and both these women and the child never have one bad thought about you. Imagine all that, and now ask yourself: what do YOU want?
Do you want a relationship with the child? Do you want your wife to be involved with the child as well? Do you want children with your wife? What do you really want?
When you have truly found this out, everything will be clearer for you. And clarity is really the only thing that counts. Who wants to go through life if all it gives you is an absence of litigation? You should be HAPPY! Coming back to your question: once you know exactly what arrangement you want, it’s much easier to get it.
Does this make sense?