While I would not date other men or go to singles parties or text with men flirtatiously, and obviously I wouldn't hook up or kiss the opposite sex now...
i feel like emotionally there will always be some distance between myself and my boyfriend until he proposes. I am getting more comfortable with him but until he asks me to be his wife and puts a ring on my finger he could be gone at any moment, I don't view our relationship as necessarily permanent until he ties me down, and I would not date him for years without a ring.
Does antone else feel this way?
Most Helpful Guy
Many people have rings... and they don't mean a damn thing. Go ask all of the divorced and heartbroken people in the world. What you guys need is counseling to get at the core issues that are preventing TRUE commitment. Getting a piece of overpriced rock is not the path to resolving issues...2
Most Helpful Girl
I'm in complete agreement because I am going through this exact same thing right now of a person with three years in. I recently told him if you aren't going to commit by now, you will never marry me. So, I cut everything off, especially sex. So now I get to see the true colors of someone. I even through a bone in the loop and said, "if sex is so much more of a need, then go have sex elsewhere and come back when you want to commit"
But with me saying that, I'm just waiting to see if he will actually take that option and run with it, only to find out that, he will never have a chance with me again if he does.
As a woman, and as you get older your desires for things and needs change. It comes to a point that just "in a relationship" is no longer good enough. Because if your doing everything a married couple does, he's never going to be interested in marriage any sooner because he's already getting his cake and eating it too.
I also look at it as this person is having second guesses about being in a committed relationship with me.1