I met this guy in highschool, we feel in love and we had some hard times, he has been cheated on by both his ex's and when we first got together he assumes i was like that, so he jumped in to guarded mode, calling me names, being rude, etc, though i seen he loved me, jumping foward some, we are married now, for 6 months, and i feel like the stuff he said to me when we first got together is affecting me on how to be the girl i was when we first met. i dont laugh ir smile the same, i have a bit of an attitude, do to also been treated like this in the past, but i do love him and he loves me, this is starting to affect our realtionship because i get really upset or nervous easily too, thinking ill make him mad or something, (he was also an ass for a while too) we both have changed, but i still think im unknowingly holding a grudge subconsciously. i do not want to dump him or divorce him, he is a great guy, i would just really like some advice so i can calm my internal frustration, and settle this between us once and for all. and advice please?
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If u can set an openly talk about how u both feel.. or if u would be willing there a books on this kind of things.. a lot of things that everyone goes through in marriage.. me an my husband have started a new set of books an they seem to help an we have a few others if u would like to know more about them.. iv told a few others about them an they seem to work for them to! Just remember ur only human an so is he so it's natural to feel this.. it's only if u trust an believe one another that u can an will make ur marriage work!!1