If they truly gave themselves to their husbands why are they reluctant to respect and honor him? Aren't women who behave this way more likely to cheat on their marriage? How can they claim to be committed to their marriage if they won't fully accept it?
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I am in your age group and can tell you the #1 reason...the way we were raised. I was raised you go to school, go to college, start your career and then maybe get married and maybe have children...what society told us as little girls in the late '70's was not how our mothers raised us. I always said when I was a little girl that I wanted my husband to take my name...now if I ever married I would have to hyphenate because my daughter has my last name (maiden name) but I have had clients that were men change their last names for their wives. Point is the VOW is the most important part of marriage, a name change is not always a matter of respect to a woman. It could be her career she is known as a certain name and needs to keep ahold of that or she merely wants something for her own. Maybe she loves her father and respects him so much that she wants to keep that part of her dad (esp if he's no longer on this earth). You will only know the realy answer from your wife without arguing about it but truly asking why...only she can give you the answer. We are in a new century and although I do see why you would ask I also see why should she be the one changing her identity? It is her identity...she did grow up that name...so just ask her...1