Follow me here. In the past, it was a bad deal for women to get married. They basically became house cleaners and babysitters. They could also be hit by their husband. So the man, while he still worked hard and everything, still had an incentive to be married. There were advantages (guaranteed house cleaning, kids, etc). He also had no worries about her cheating, as that use to be frowned upon. And also, divorce was not common. So he wasn't getting left with only half of what he earned.
With all those facts, I can understand chivalry being in play. I can understand the requirement for men to chase and approach women.
But now? Everything is turned around. Men now get the raw deal in marriage. There is no guaranteed sex anymore, there is no housecleaning and cooking, there is no guarantee for her to be a great mother. The marriage laws are completely biased towards women, we all know this. Its common knowledge at this point. When there is a divorce, the woman gets more than she deserves. 50% end in divorce, and most are initiated by women
So, now that women have the advantage in marriage, can someone explain to me why men still are expected to do the chasing? Shouldn't men be able to sit back and wait for women to come to them? Aren't WE the ones that need the heavy convincing to get into marriage which does not favor us? Shouldn't women now be approaching men and paying for dates?
Just wondering. Seems backwards to me. That seems to be a little tidbit that feminists skipped over when making women equal. Equal in everything except courtship.
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It sounds like you're bitter about more than just marriage but rather everything that has to do with dating or females in general. Personally, its not my fault that women get more things in a divorce that has to do with the courts not anything I personally did. If the woman is anything like me then there is still house cleaning AND cooking, not to meantion I'm pregnant right now with our (my husband and my) first little one. There is nothing that ever said that those women in the past were guaranteed to be a great mother either, there was no guarantee for that at all and there never will be. If you don't want to get married, then stop chasing women. We don't EXPECT you to do it, but you still will as long as you want to be with someone. Men are able to sit back and wait for women to come to them, they will probably be waiting for a long time but nothing says they can't do it. We shouldn't have to convince a guy to marry us, the guy should want to do so despite any possible negatives about the situation. He should be thinking about the positives since there are negatives about marriage for both parners not just the male. Like I said you will probably be waiting for a while but someday maybe a woman will approach you and pay for the dates but don't complain about how long it takes or about how feminist she is once she comes along. You asked for it. Most women now a days still believe that they are worth more than guys give them credit for, that's not saying that they didn't feel that way before but that they are more open about it now. You could just drop the ignorant attitude and realize that women are just as capable of doing the same things as men. If you want to sit back and wait for women to come to you then why don't you just do it? Tell the girl that comes up to you how you feel about marriage and she will probably flee seeing as your seeking out the woman that believes that the sexes should be equal in all ways. She won't do everything in the relationship that the male "used to do" just because she believes she is equal to you. She will do what she does on her own without your help that's it, like she doesn't need you (because she doesn't). I could go on but I've ranted enough for this conversation lol..2