We have been together since I was 18. He cheated on me 7 years ago, but we got over that and he tells me how much he loves me and how attractive I am all the while. However, I have always been the main 'bread-winner' and the stable one with a good job. In the past he has been unemployed and quit his job just cos he didn't like it. He has recently become unemployed again, leaving me to try and sort out the mortgage. Until a few weeks ago he has always used weed quite a lot. I know he loves me and would be devastated if I left. But I don't know if I can wait any longer for him to turn into a real man, get a proper job and ask me to marry him. Am I being a mug or cow?
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hmmn that is a long time, but after I read the full question, it sounds like this is the time your boyfriend needs you the most, he needs you to be supportive and needs to see that even without a job you still love him and aren't some golddigger or anything, a man always needs a woman to cheer him on and motivate him to get a better job and just be there for him...otherwise that man has no value...i think the fact that he has his failed jobs and stress he can't focus on marriage right now, marriage is a very happy time in life, that also comes with a lot of expenses and guests that come and judge you and stuff, and he won't be ready for it until he feels secure and successful with a nice job...you just have to motivate him and show him some love...
i think he needs to be cheered up, and not until he gets a nice job he can't think of marriage. men are always insecure about their financial status...so just help out with that and if you find that after he gets a new job he is still not popping the question then you can bring it up to him and let him know its bothering you...but right now I think its wrong timing..
the weed you should just tell him you don't like it and he needs to stop if he respects u1