I have a friend who's boyfriend proposed to her because he is going to the military, so that he has money for college and she is only 16,(he's 19) but then have know each other for year but just started going out like 3 years ago. What do you think?
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Stupid! I know that with the military there are plenty of advantages to it, but NO. You do so much growing personality-wise in your 20's that they will end up being almost totally different people than they are now. Statistically, they have like a 1 in 9 chance of lasting. Plus, he better check with the military. They have a big issue with underage sex, and at 16, she can get married, but many states will still consider it statutory rape until she turns 17. And the military has its own laws about those things, and usually does not allow it (if a soldier is caught with anyone underage, it can be a big enough issue to get you in a lot of trouble).
Plus, if he's active duty and married, he gets housing wherever they put him after basic and any extra training he gets. She'd most likely be moving during high school onto a base and living there, wouldn't she? By herself, I assume? Because while young military wives are common, as a military brat, I can say I know of none that young on the bases I've been on. If he's going Reserve, though, it would be different. That makes a big difference.
If they really want to be together, they can stay together and wait until she's done with high school at least. If it's money for college, he can go reserve and get his $40,000 and do ROTC or Military Science, then go 4 years active duty as Green-to-Gold, becoming an officer. That's the best choice, especially right now. Everyone I know who has gone into the military in the pst few years has gone to Iraq and Afghanistan, including my sister, my brother-in-law, and my cousin. The only one not deployed is my brother, and that's because he's doing linguistics training. The Green-to-Gold or ROTC through a local college would be the best choice for him, that way they could marry after she's done with school and they wouldn't have to worry about all of the issues they may face.3