My husband and I need time apart. This fact has been mutually agreed upon and is fully supported by all of our friends on both sides.
In short, I'm just not happy.
He's a really great guy who is wonderful to me; but he's really childish and the stress of taking care of him is making me emotionally numb. I'm no longer attracted to him. So I'm sexually frustrated as well.
Everyone has agreed that time apart is our only hope of saving the marriage. He needs time to grow up, without me here to pick him when he falls. Everyone says he needs to learn to take care of himself.
But I'm not sure if even love him anymore. I CARE about him, but I want to leave so bad that I'm worried I won't want to come back after a break.
I think about other guys all the time too. That's really bad, I know, I feel bad. People always say NOT to stay if you're not happy, I will hurt him more if don't want to be here. I just don't know if its the stress or him.
Taking a break is something we both can agree to, but the closest place I can go is 2 days away, and I'm a military housewife who is completely financially dependent on him. I don't want to leave knowing I may not come back when he will still be supporting me, I'd feel horrible about that.
I don't know if I should just divorce him now, or try time apart while still married. I'm so worried about him.
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Critical question: Will the time apart fix what's wrong with the marriage? If no, don't bother with the separation. Talk with him seriously about the future--or the end--of this marriage.
Marriage isn't a boxing match. If you're taking breaks between rounds, it's time to throw the towel.0
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