So as you can tell, I'm 20-something, which means a whole lot of my friends around my age have started to get married, or in a serious relationship with marriage potential. Honestly, I'm kinda freaked out. I'm so not in a serious relationship, and while I do have a guy who I'm crazy about and he feels the same and we don't really plan on dating anyone else, we're nowhere near on marriage-ville.
I guess I'm just kinda freaked out on the prospect of having to be "serious" about the whole marriage thing instead of just dating and seeing how things go. I'm never the marriage-crazy type and I'm not obsessed about it. Like, sure it'd be nice but it's not like I'm gonna go nuts if I end up not getting married.
Do guys look for the "marriage" material when it comes to dating around this age?
To me, it feels wrong to date someone expecting to get married Because that's like having an agenda in a relationship. Luckily all my close friends are still single, but really, seeing people change their relationship status to "married/engaged" or post sh*tload of wedding pics can freak me out.
Just wondering if anyone else feels the same. kthx
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Of course we look for marriage material. For any self-respecting, intelligent and even moderately successful man, the standards he has for hooking up with a girl and marrying a girl are hugely different.
Most guys would slam any decently attractive girl out there from a 6.5/10 and up. Given enough whiskey, he might even lower the acceptable number to 5. My flatmate is the classic example of rose-colored, concave beer goggles.
To marry a girl, our standards are quite high. The girl doesn't have to be just physically attractive but she must carry herself well and be presentable to my family and those close to us. She's has to have a nice personality and get along with me without fighting much. We must be at least close when it comes to what we earn. Otherwise, if something goes wrong, I'll end up supporting her for years.
For a booty call or casual dating, I don't care how intelligent the girl is or whether she can even get a sentence out. Heck, I've slept with girls who can't even speak two words of English. Would I even consider marrying any of them? Hell NO!0