Me and my husband got married 3 months ago, but before that everything had always been perfect. After we got married he started to be laid back and not care about my feelings, emotions and needs. I feel horrible, it's like I'm pushing myself away by not liking how he is behaving with me. It's really hurtful, I can't even sleep.
I've tried to let him know, but even though he says he will do better, he never does. It's worst every time. Even my guy friends care more about me than he does now. I'm so disappointed. I don't know what to do anymore.
All this is making me regret marrying him, and just leave. But I don't want to get to the point where I could. I still love him, and don't want this to fall apart. But I'm tired of him not caring anymore. And I need to be loved. What can I do?
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You can expect some of that in any marriage, though three months is pretty early. You may have to meet him in the middle and learn to live with less of the benefits "courting" and "dating" phases give you. While he may not send you roses just to say, "I love you" or cuddle while watching movies or greet you with hugs and kisses anymore, the trade is that you know he's coming home to you, everyday, for the rest of your life. He sacrificed his bachelor-ness and promised to love...
And CHERISH - which it sounds like he's not doing. So, he'll need to improve a little too and stop taking things for granted. You could bargain with him using sex ploys "if you make me feel sexy, I'll show you how sexy I can be"...that type of thing.
Or, you may be able to make him jealous a bit and re-ignite some male ego. If a guy at work is flirting with you, for instance, mention it. Tell him that it's nice to hear compliments for a change. That could backfire, I suppose.
There is a member on this site named A R Norman...I'd search for her answers and maybe send her a message. She always has good advice and she's happily married.