My girl friend says that she loves me and serious in relationship. I also know that she loves me and serious. But she has unstable brain. She lived with lot of men and may be told the same to them, what she says to me now... but left all of them, because she felt they all are not good. But keeps their numbers, emails and try to contact often by herself or by using her friends. I told her, all men cannot be wrong, if so I am also wrong then. She says always long-term relationship will be good, but not talk about marriage. How should I take her and understand? Do I need to consider her past behavior for guidance? I think sometimes she may be changed and sometimes, when she goes unstable, she will freak again and talks about breaks and breaks and come backs. I really cannot understand :(
How to believe her, when I look at her past?
What Girls Said 1
You say she has an "unstable brain" but you give no clue as to what you mean by this. It sounds like you want to challenge her for something but you don't know how or if you should do it. Your question makes little sense, proabably due to your broken english.
Does she judge you on your past? Do you allow her to know your previous girlfriends or to look at whom you have emailed. You need to stop being so insecure about yourself, you're perhaps driving her away with your paranoia. That she has lived with "alot of men" means nothing, lots of us live with others, or you're calling her morally loose - which is it?
If you don't trust and you have let her know this, then of course she will want a break from you. Who would want to be with someone who doesn't believe them or looks for clues about the past in order to blame his current problems on them. Have you thought that maybe she will not talk about marriage because she is not interested in getting married.0
What Guys Said 1
You are wise to realize that what she says and what she does are two separate things, you are unwise if you give your heart to her knowing this.0
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