I realize I'm very young to be engaged but I am. I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend and we knew we would get married. Were almost positive it will be March of 2013. I'll be 19 by then ad he'll be 20. It's been almost 2 years since we decided and we still have about a year an a half left. I keep getting more and more impatatient. Also, I HATE my house. I have a very bad relationship with my mom and I hate being there so that just makes it worse. Is there anything I can do to make waiting less stressful?
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I did not want to get married until 25 and not have children (if ever) until the age of 30. I got married 8 months after I turned 25. My son was born when I was 31. I am glad and thankful I wanted on both accounts. When I read your posting, it made me cringe. You really are way too young. I understand about the lousy home life. I also understand that your Christian (I am a believer myself) values are going to tell you living together is not proper. I don't have a relationship with my parents at all now. When I was 18, I joined the Navy just to get out of there entirely. I never lived with them again. So, I can relate.
There are alternatives to getting out of the house and not getting married. Working through college, having roommates, etc. I would just encourage you two to wait. You may think you are mature already. As you get older, you may find out just how wrong you are on that one. I can't believe how immature I was at 20. I am still immature at times at 45, but it is more of a choice now. Back then, it was genuine immaturity.
Let's say you two get married. You come up pregnant right away. You can't know how much that changes your life. Even at 31, I could not believe how much life changed at having a baby. However, at 31, I was more ready for it. At 19 or 20, no way could I have handled it then.
I would encourage you to think and pray about this. Keep working on the foundation of your friendship. It will carry you two for the long haul. I have to ask - are you just wanting to get married to have sex so you don't give into temptation? Sex is great, fun and exciting when you are first married. As the years go by, you will need much more than just sex to keep you two intersted.