I got a lecture today from one of Canada's best known Criminal Justice profs. He was only there for a bit of a motivational speech but he touched into how men need to be careful about protecting their money and he was super blunt about it. He said if your smart you'll realize with divorce rated rocketing in past decades except the last recession when they "magically" fell, you'll realize marriages are only for women to have financial security so when they get fed up with you which is almost a guarantee they'll probably run off to divorce court just to steal a large chunk of your personal value and half of that hard earned pension when you retire since divorce courts are so extremely biased against men and always take the women's side. He said boys its not a matter of if you'll get divorced its when and how many times... thus guy has not been threw a divorce keep that in mind. Just a little something to think about boys!
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WOW, sounds like somebody was very bitter and poisoned an entire classroom full of people. I'm an instructor as well and I don't go telling the students bitter things about men, etc.
If it's any consolation, there are guys out there -- like my ex -- who remain jobless and feckless till the end of their days because they found a hard-working woman to dupe into supporting them then petitioned for alimony in the divorce proceedings.
I remember being young and sweet... and completely gullible when he said, "Take my name, honey. That's what all normal women do..." He was sweet about it at first, but ultimately really pushed for it.
Sure, along with 50% of everything including your retirement money. It was completely arbitrary in that I was the one with legitimate grounds for divorce. The first judge we had (who was a guy) literally told him to "grow a set" and threw the petition out as invalid, but the ex just kept finding ways to go harpooning for my paychecks because the court system was taking too long to change my name.
Should I tell women, "Never change your name over..." or "Some guys are con artists"? No! The only thing I can advise is to take a good long look at who you decide to spend forever with. Will you be able to deal with their little quirks and insecurities for the long-haul? Will habits X, Y and Z still be adorable in 10, 20, 30, 50 years down the road? Try to picture it clearly before you commit to moving in with each other, marrying each other, having children together, etc...
Life's a gamble and the biggest stake you can put up is your heart, not your bank account. You have to make sure you're both on the same page with this sort of thing. Problem is that in today's society divorce is almost expected, so marriage is entered into too lightly.
Your teacher's point is that you shouldn't enter into a marital union without careful thought. I would, perhaps, have used different words, and certainly not pitched a message like that to a class full of susceptible teenagers on the verge of adulthood!1