I think many people are disillusioned by the idea of romantic love and a whirlwind of fairy tale romance. But I don't really want that. I want my future husband to be my best friend, with good sex of close.
I just think that romance and Hollywood passion are artificial and shallow. people think that's the ideal, but I don't think that is love. I think true love is when two people can be themselves and share anything with each other and feel comfortable. As a girl I can say that it is easy enough to find a guy but finding a guy who can be your best friend that you have a deeper thing with, now that is special and a true blessing. Look at all the couples who have been together forever. You'll see that they are each others' best friends. That's why we can often share things with our friends but not our significant others. If it isn't close friendship under the surface,it will fizzle out.
so I urge girls to look twice at their friendships with guys. While movies encourage a fairy tale, that isn't true love.
When someone asks me what I want my husband to be like, I don't say romantic. I say my best friend.
how do you feel about this?
Maybe some guys have it more straight, girls are more often the ones who friend zone guys according to my observations.
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I definitely agree with you. Often times the guys who are so instantly charming just don't have what it takes for a real relationship. You need to really know the person you're marrying, it seems obvious but apparently it's not considering how often people are getting divorced.
My boyfriend is the truest and closest friend I've ever had, he's my everything and I can talk to him about anything. We were best friends for 2 years before we started dating. He really fulfills me more than anyone else ever has, because I know he enjoys my company as a person, not just as his girlfriend. It's a really great feeling and I think it makes it a lot easier for us to communicate if we're ever having problems.
But there was a good point made about being sure your boyfriend is not your ONLY best friend. It might not seem like a big deal, but you need to be able to have someone outside your relationship to be around and confide in. He can be your everything, but he can't be your everything ALL the time. It will drain you, and it's a lot to expect from one person to be your lover and your best friend 24/7. There are times when you'll feel disappointed because you're expecting too much. I became very depressed at one point because my boyfriend was pretty much my only friend, and he couldn't be there all the time. I think you need to be able to have other people to turn to sometimes.
Didn't mean to ramble, I just like to stress how important it is to have balance in your life. I myself have a huge problem with balance.1