My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 months now and we're totally in love. he hasn't proposed yet, but he said he's going to. and I know ill say yes. for the next few months, I'll still be 17. Am I too young to get married. We're both mature enough , but we can both act much younger than our ages a lot of times. We are so happy and we want to spend all our time together. Is it a bad idea?
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I'm not one to judge and tell you not to do it. There are a lot of couples who get married young and really do stay together forever, but there are even more couples who split up.
I think the biggest thing that is lacking is life experience. At 17 you both still live at home. With high school neither of you have held down a full time job (summer jobs don't count). You can't live on love alone. Are either of you of going to college? Have higher aspirations? If you get married now your parent's insurance won't cover you. What will you do if either of you gets sick? Have either of you made a major purchase (like a car) on your own without the help of parents? Will there be money for rent, utilities, groceries. Oh, and you won't be covered on your parents car insurance any more either. You'll have to get your own policy. Do you want children right away or do you want to wait? Are you mature enough to handle time apart should one or the others jobs send them off? Would you be prepared to move for a job opportunity.
I could go on and on. I know you probably think you don't need to worry about it because you're in love and will make it work, but everything I listed above and more are why couples split up. Because they don't think about all the curve balls life can throw at them.
If you feel like you're ready to accept a proposal, that is totally up to you. I would definitely encourage you to consider having a long engagement. If he loves you today he'll love you 3 years from now, and that time will go fast. Get some REAL life experience under your belts before saying "I do". No harm will come from waiting :)2