Women, could you see yourself happily married to a man who earns less than you?

I've wondered this for a long time. Please share your thoughts & discuss.

Updates:
This experiment has run it's course. Thankyou for your responses. Part of me actually wishes I could believe them.

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  • Yea - I probably will be. The job I'm shooting for pays almost 80,000 a year. It's not 6 figures but if I get good enough it could be.

    I'd like to make a good amount of money some day, so I can have a good amount of cash in for the kid's college funds. Don't want a big house, just something comfy. Financial stability is a big thing for me, only because I grew up without a lot of it. I hate feeling like I can't take care of myself or family money wise.

    I essentially like the role of being the provider - that's my inner guy I suppose lol :P

    So it wouldn't bother me at all if he makes less. Even if he wanted to be a stay at home dad - I'd be totally fine with that.

    The only thing that would bother me in this respect - is if he has no ambition. It'd be nice if he had a hobby of some sort / interest he was pursuing. Not just sitting around.

    But if I get my desired career going then it's whatev. If I don't then he'll either be making more or we'll be making around the same. Even if I'm still making more than him then, then whatev - however, if we got kids and our home can't be supported off of one income, then I'd have to restrict anyone being a stay at home parent :P

    I've seen my uncle struggle with this so much that it's just illogical to do so.

    I only want us to have a decent amount of money to be financially good - and then money ain't no thang.

    I'd prefer to spend the excess on vacations, taking everyone out - and bonding as a family ultimately, as well as making sure my children get an excellent start to life.

    As far as my dude - I just want him to be there, income or not, for all the other essentials in a good union.

    Good guys for hubby's are hard to find these days - no sense in putting a price on someone's who's ultimately priceless...

    I only worry though, if me making more money than him - would bother him?

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What Girls Said 15

  • As long as he's okay with it, yea definitely. But I would still treat him normally meaning I would still expect dinner dates (doesn't have to be fancy). I like spending money on others more than having it in return so I would have no problem with this.

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  • Yes, that would be fine. I think I'll make enough, or at least between both of us we can live comfortably. I'm more interested in finding someone I'm compatible with, who's caring, intelligent, open-minded, has a good character, etc. It'd be great if he's passionate about something and happy with who he is and what he's doing, whatever that might be.

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  • Yep.

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  • No because when I grow up, I want to be a tracher which makes about 30,000 to 50,000 a year so yeah not that much. They wouldhave a very low pay.

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  • The problem would be that the guy might begin to feel insecure if, for example, he's married to a successful doctor or lawyer or something and he's in a significantly lower-paying job, because it diminishes his role as a caretaker and therefore his masculinity.

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  • minimum wage? no

    but if it's a few thousand less, then yeah

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  • Yes.

    I'm studying to be a nurse. So I wouldn't really mind, as long as he is working and earning something, even if it is less than me.

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  • I will not lie: no

    I don't think so. I know the life I envision for myself, the general area where I want to live and I don't think so. It wouldn't work out.

    I like nice things, but I also plan on making sure that I have an education and my own career, but it takes 2 to support a household

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  • Yess :)

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  • depends on the person ... exist so you should believe but not majority girls prefers

    (my mom earn more than my mom but nvr been a prob.. :-)) so good luck :-)

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  • Yes because a marriage's happiness doesn't depend on income.

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    • So why'd you ask if you had already made up your mind on the matter?

  • Sure, if I made good money so we could live nice.

    If I was extremely wealthy, I'd want a prenup.

    Maybe a prenup either way... people are so shady these days...

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    • Ok... and a house husband would be nice cause. I don't like cleaning.

  • yes. if he's happy with his job and what he's earning, then I'm happy too.

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  • Yeah, if I'm marrying the the guy.. It's because I'm happy with him, not how much he earns.

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  • if you happy,whatever you could be

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What Guys Said 1

  • studies show women will date them but also divorce them for not changing and becoming finacially successful

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    • Indeed. I try not to be bias but what I've witnessed and what these women claim are complete opposites.

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