Why can't they just mind their own damn business?!
It's like for some people that the only acceptable way to have kids and be a couple is for you to be married.
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Why can't anyone mind their own business? We are social creatures and a lot of people mistakenly think they were elected to tell everyone around them what to do lol.
Seriously, some people just cannot think outside of their own beliefs and some seem to take it as a personal offense if you do things in a way that does not match their beliefs.
As far as having kids without marriage, it is pretty common these days and child support and custody can be decided in a breakup regardless of whether you were married. However, some people just have strong convictions around marriage first, kids second.
So, as much as you wish people wouldn't say anything, someone is and you can counter that by respecting that they believe it would be better to be married but letting them know you will not marry simply to quiet their concerns. I also find that what can bother us the most is stuff we may not be at peace with. Make sure you are really at peace with your decisions. It helps a lot in keeping you calm when others criticize.0